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How to Talk to Children to Lead Them to Success

June 1, 2017 by · Leave a Comment 

One of the most well-known and top-selling motivational gurus of our time is Tony Robbins. His childhood proved to be challenging, but he came out of it strong after partnering with Jim Rohn, a self-help professional. It didn’t take long for Robbins to start creating his own books and speeches to help others get the help that he had sought out.

Of course parents these days want their children to be successful, and Tony Robbins is offering some advice for this to happen. Robbins was recently interviewed on how to raise children to be successful entrepreneurs. Robbins advised parents to instill the growth mindset into their children in order for them to achieve success.

The Growth Mindset

The growth mindset is when children believe that they can always learn more and that the more effort they put into what they do, the stronger they will get. This encourages them to put in extra time and effort, leading to higher achievement.

When praising children, it is important to not focus on their perfection, but rather give them praise and encouragement about the effort that they have put forth to overcome obstacles. This includes characteristics such as persistence and determination.

Alternatively, a fixed mindset is when someone assumes that people can only be as successful or talented as they are born to be. Achievement is based on the innate talents that people are born with and cannot be learned. People who have a fixed mindset typically discount any effort, hard work, and determination that are used to achieve success.

The growth mindset allows people to believe that humans’ ability to achieve is much more controllable, meaning people can increase their abilities and intelligence over time with hard work, perseverance, and determination.

Belief in Development

Many people are raised having a fixed mindset. While some may work to overcome this mindset later in life, when they encounter this idea for the first time, it is often questionable whether or not it is too late to change.

It is possible to redevelop one’s mindset later in life, but it is more effective to learn this as a child.

In fact, studies have shown that parents can help their children develop a growth mindset as young as one-year-old. This will then affect how they tackle challenges and succeed in school. It is all about praising your children in the correct way.

Persistence, Hard work, and Effort

Robbins believes that the most important piece of parenting advice is that teaching your child to have a growth mindset will result in them setting higher goals, having a healthier attitude about how their effort effects their successes and failures, and will prevent children from being bored because they will not be scared to try new or difficult things.

So, rather than saying, “You did a perfect job!” say something more along the lines of “You did such a great job on that because you never gave up!” This type of shaping helps children grow up to value persistence, work hard work, and put forth a lot of effort. This is where children will ultimately find rewards once they reach adulthood.

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Questions to Ask to Reignite Your Flame

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Being comfortable enough in a relationship to settle in and start finishing each other’s sentences is great. But what if it starts feeling so familiar that it becomes boring? If you need to get some of the sparks back into your relationship because it seems like things have started to fall a bit flat, try asking these new questions. It will help to reestablish the connection between you and your partner that may seem a bit lost among the routine of life.

Have I made you laugh recently? When?

Laughing is one of the best way to create lasting memories. It activates the reward center in the brain that releases dopamine, making you instantly feel good. If you stop to think about the last time you really laughed together, you can rehash some old memories and probably bring back some of the humor to the present moment. Talk about all of the times the two of you have cracked up together to get a few smiles in.

What do you consider to be our best vacation?

Routines begin to make our relationships boring. Our busy lives and responsibilities often make us distant from our partner as we go along with working through each day. Stopping to talk about some more exciting and laid back times can help you two remember how much fun you are able to have when you can get away from your routine.

Even just thinking about these past experiences together can bring you back to the same feelings of being on your relaxing vacation. That calm demeanor can carry over into your home life and you may find yourselves to be less stressed and irritable, and more willing to take a deep breath.

Do you have a sexual fantasy that we have never talked about?

True connectivity requires both partner’s emotional and sexual feelings to be in sync. Once people have been in a relationship for a long time, they do not often stop to talk about their sex life. However, it is not only important but also healthy to talk about what you want without feeling guilt or embarrassment.

Have this conversation without putting pressure on each other to play these fantasies out. Use your imagination to come up with some things that you are both comfortable with. This may help to reignite the passion in your relationship and spice up your intimate lives.

How can I speak your love language?

We all know the various love languages, gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, and acts of service. It is important to know your partner’s love language so you can act in a way that makes your partner feel loved and appreciated.

Often people end up speaking the love language that they like to receive them self, but it is key to remember that everyone feels love and appreciation differently.

Talk to your partner about this. You can even take a love language quiz online if you are unsure what your or your partner’s language is. This way, you will be able to come up with solid ways to show each other how much you care. Remember that your love language may actually change over time, so it may be helpful to revisit this conversation every so often for a refresher.

When do you feel like we are close?

When you ask your partner to tell you when they feel close to you, you?re able to learn when they feel emotionally connected to you. This emotional intimacy is important for a long-term and successful relationship.

Also, this communication and intimacy is essential in order to have a rewarding sex life. While your partner may not necessarily feel the closest to you when you are in bed, it can bring you together if you know the answer to this question. Whatever their answer is, keep it in mind when you?re looking to reconnect, whether it is after an argument or if you have just started to grow apart.

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How to Gain Focus in Our Distracted Society

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Smartphones, emails, schedules, phone calls — how can anyone stop and pay attention to just one thing at a time?

Trying to do so many things at once will likely lead to doing everything yet doing nothing at all. Your stress level will rise and the quality of your work will fall. This results in procrastination when you continue to focus on the small and insignficant tasks in your life rather than acknowledging the major goals that need to be accomplished.

While we may think that we can fit everything in to have it all, it never ends up quite working that way.

Instead, it is important to work on focusing on one task at a time. Stop multi-tasking and give each task your full attention. This will stop your distractions, lower your stress levels, and drive your energy into where it is needed the most. Here are some tricks to help boost your focus.

Drink Water

Even if you become just a little thirsty, your performance can suffer.

Studies have linked struggles with concentration and mental sharpness to even only mild dehydration. This may be because your brain’s neurons are able to detect dehydration, triggering the parts of your brain that regulate your mood and other important functions.

Having a drink of cold water can also boost your body into an active mode if you are starting to feel a bit lazy or sleepy. Drink some ice cold water to get a quick boost of energy.

So, how much water do you need to drink? That depends on your diet, lifestyle, and size. If you are active, you need to drink significantly more water than if you are sedentary to replace any fluids that you have lost. The easiest thing to remember is to drink eight glasses of water, but this number may very. If you feel thirsty, certainly drink water.

Consider the Temperature

If you find yourself to be either hot or cold, it might be difficult to focus on your task at hand.

If you are slightly warm, you may become relaxed and drowsy, causing your work to become inefficient. Cooler temperatures, on the other hand, can induce mental stress, which may make it more difficult to stay on task.

The best thing for your focus is to find the temperature that is just right for you so you are not internally complaining about how hot or cold you are.

Focus View

When doing work on the computer, click the icon that leads to the ?focus view? setting. This automatically eliminates everything on your screen except for what you are working on. This includes calendar alerts, application notifications, email alerts, and instant messages. This type of single-minded focus will allow you to be more efficient without the distractions.

This is a good tool to use because it puts the job of getting rid of distractions in someone else’s hand. You don’t have to decide which interruptions you will address and which ones you will ignore because none of them will come through to you.

Set a Timer

Set aside a specific amount of time to work on certain tasks. Use an actual timer to make sure that you stick to your planned working time.

Setting a timer will help you focus by eliminating any distractions that you know are meant to be done outside of the time you have set aside to do your work. If you know that you have a pre-determined amount of time, you will be more likely to stay on task rather than moving around from one distraction to another.

Take a step back before beginning your task and determine how much time you will reasonably need to get it accomplished. Even if you just want to be able to make some progress, turn off all of your distractions and get to work.

Clean Up

Take 15 minutes to clear up the clutter from your working area to help you find more focus.

If you feel that your office is as clean as it will reasonably get, choose a different part of your house such as your junk drawer or car. This cleaning momentum will carry on into your working mindset and keep you motivated to get some things done.

The momentum will actually make you want to accomplish more. Complete a minor cleaning task to get that feeling of satisfaction to get you started.

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The Effect of Sugar on Your Brain

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While your body does need some sugar or glucose to create energy, it only needs a little to carry out its required functions. Consuming too much sugar is harmful to your overall health. The overconsumption of sugar is becoming more and more linked to health issues related to the brain such as depression, memory problems, learning disorders, and overeating.

Your Body Sees Sugar as a Drug

Sugar has become the substance that is moving the U.S. into a situation of medical collapse. While many think of illicit drugs as being the only substance that can do this, sugar has actually been proven to trigger a reward state in the brain that is similar to addictive drugs.

Not only can sugar substitute for illegal drugs such as cocaine, it can even be more rewarding.

The effects of sugar on your brain may help explain why people have difficulty limiting their consumption of sugar when they are continuously exposed to it. Studies suggest that there is a high degree of overlap between the parts of the brain that are involved in processing natural sugar and illicit drugs.

Non-drug addictions have become increasingly studied and have shown themselves to manifest in symptoms such as craving, lack of behavior control, increase in tolerance, withdrawal symptoms and relapse.

How Sugar Addiction Begins

The brain’s nucleus accumbens and prefrontal cortex drive a person’s intentional actions, such as continuing to consume sugar.

The prefrontal cortex also activates dopamine, which helps control the brain’s reward and pleasure centers. The long-term stimulation of this area of the brain begins the process of addiction.

When you consume sugar, you experience pleasure from the dopamine signal that is sent to your nucleus accumbens, which makes you want to consume more. With prolonged exposure, the pleasure signal weakens, causing you to consume more sugar to get the same effect. If you discontinue taking the substance, you experience withdrawal symptoms, which means you have an addiction.

Each time you consume sugar, a pattern in the brain is activated and becomes more defined, making it easier to activate the pattern in the future. Soon, the neuronal pathway that is led by the addiction becomes your brain’s unconscious default. Because your brain wants to be efficient, it takes the most familiar route, which requires your substance of choice.

Food Addiction Is Real

Research has used MRIs to examine the effects of foods that are high in sugar on brain activity. The researchers found that after eating a high glycemic index meal, blood sugar spikes and then later has a sharp crash. This crash in blood sugar stimulates more brain activity in the brain’s pleasure center, causing the brain to crave more sugar.

Sugar and Alzheimer’s Disease

Insulin is often associated with keeping your blood sugar stable, but it also works with the signals in your brain. Studies have shown that when the signals of insulin in the brain are disrupted, researchers are able to induce confusion, the inability to remember, and disorientation, which are all common signs of Alzheimer’s.

Studies have linked type 2 diabetes with an increased risk of dementia, and even a mild elevation of blood sugar can lead to an elevated risk for dementia.

How Glucose and Fructose Affect Your Brain

Increases in fructose consumption are parallel to the increases that are seen in obesity rates. Because of this, diets that are high in fructose are believed to promote weight gain and insulin resistance. Studies have been done using MRIs to identify the neurophysiological factors that are related to fructose consumption versus those of glucose consumption.

The research shows that fructose, which is extracted from corn, may increase the brain’s interest in food, while glucose triggers the brain’s satiation signal, telling you that you’re full.

This research, as well as others, have shown the importance of paying attention to the kind of sugar you are consuming. Because fructose does not stimulate insulin and therefore doesn’t let your brain know when you are full, you are likely to continue to eat past the point of being satisfied and develop insulin resistance.

Research also shows that consuming fructose may influence you to eat impulsively, continuing to consume food even after your body should have known that you have had enough. Continuing to consume fructose in large amounts will become problematic if you are already in the habit of overeating.

Fructose Leads to Weight Gain

Fructose is often consumed in beverages such as soda and juice, making its negative metabolic effects even worse. The high fructose corn syrup in beverages is metabolized as body fat much quicker than any other sugar.

The liver is solely responsible for metabolizing fructose. This harms and overloads your liver, opening it up to the possibility of damage. Fructose also promotes adipose fat, which is a body fat that collects in your midsection and is associated with a higher risk of heart disease.

Unlike liquid high fructose corn syrup, the fructose that is found in fruits and cane sugar is bonded with other sugars, which decreases its metabolic toxicity. Eating large amounts of fructose is the quickest way you can harm your health. It invites health problems such as:

  • arthritis
  • cancer
  • gout
  • heart disease
  • insulin resistance
  • metabolic syndrome
  • obesity
  • type 2 diabetets
  • high blood pressure
  • high LDL cholesterol
  • liver disease

How to Limit Your Sugar Consumption

Natural sugar is not bad when it is consumed in small amounts that let you burn fat as your main fuel. However, processed fructose can have significant effects on your health.

It is important to limit your consumption of processed foods, refined carbohydrates such as cereal, pasta, bread, and other grain foods, because these foods break down into sugar, increasing your insulin levels and leading to insulin resistance. It is best to keep your fructose consumption below a total of 25 grams per day. It is important to remember that fruits naturally contain fructose.

If you consume a high amount of fructose from fruit, you can decrease your insulin sensitivity and raise your uric acid levels. Artificial sweeteners also cause health problems that are worse than the problems associated with high fructose corn syrup and sugar. To limit your sugar consumption:
eat more healthy fats in foods like avocado, almonds, salmon, and coconut oil
drink plenty of water
add fermented foods to your diet such as kefir and kimchi

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The Dangers of Pain Relievers

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Nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs are commonly used for pain relief in the U.S., both by prescription and over-the-counter. NSAIDs are often used to treat inflammation and pain and most people take these drugs believing they are safe. However, the side effects of NSAIDs can not only send someone to the hospital, but they can also be fatal.

Long-term use of these drugs or NSAID poisoning can lead to severe side effects such as hearing loss and gastrointestinal bleeding. Recent research shows that even short-term use of NSAIDs can result in harmful side effects, such as an increased risk of a heart attack.

As an increasing number of NSAIDs that are on the market are causing serious health problems, further studies are being conducted on the side effects of these common pain relievers and if the risks of the drug outweigh the benefits.

Myocardial Infarction

A myocardial infarction, more commonly referred to as a heart attack, occurs when damage is done to the heart muscle after its blood supply is blocked. The signs of a heart attack are not always clear or even related to the heart. While chest pain is the most common symptom, people can experience other symptoms such as nausea and shortness of breath. These symptoms may seem subtle, but they can have enormous consequences.

NSAIDs and Heart Attack Risk

Studies have recently been done to evaluate the risk of a heart attack associated with the use of NSAIDs. Researchers gathered information from European and Canadian studies and healthcare databases in order to evaluate the probability of having a heart attack during the first week of taking specific NSAIDs.

The studies found an increasing probability of a person suffering a heart attack in the first week for several types of NSAIDs, including the popular drug ibuprofen. The risk of having a heart attack increased 24% with celecoxib, 48% with ibuprofen, 50% with diclofenac, 53% with naproxen, and 58% with rofecoxib, which has since been removed from the market.

Further, the studies showed that there was an increased risk of having a heart attack with higher doses of NSAIDs, which is more likely to happen with prescription doses than over-the-counter doses.

Warnings also noted that taking NSAIDs can increase the risk of having a heart attack in people regardless of their history or risk of heart disease. However, patients who are treated with NSAIDs during their first year following a heart attack are more likely to pass away than those who refrain from taking NSAIDs.

The Differences Between NSAIDs

In studies, celecoxib and diclofenac showed one wave of increased risk during the first week of use, while ibuprofen, rofecoxib, and naproxen showed an additional elevated risk during throughout the second through fourth weeks of consuming the drug. It is possible that the differences between the various NSAIDs are related to the individual drugs? effect on the renal system.

Due to the findings of MI risk associated with the use of rofecoxib and results from earlier studies, rofecoxib was removed from the market.

Further Risks of NSAIDs

NSAIDs can have other negative impacts on one’s health, including an increased risk for miscarriage during the first 20 weeks of pregnancy. Studies have shown that women who took NSAIDs early on in their pregnancy more than doubled their risk of miscarriage.

The researchers believe that the drug?s effect on the lipid compounds that support a pregnancy may be the issue. Additionally, NSAID use is associated with atrial fibrillation in those who have had a heart attack in the past. You may not think this applies to you, however, research shows that up to 45% of heart attacks are asymptomatic and clinically silent. These heart attacks are often not discovered until the patient has a routine physical exam or electrocardiogram where a doctor can see that there has been damage done to the heart muscle.

In addition to an increased risk of a heart attack, using NSAIDs also increases one’s risk of bleeding in the gastrointestinal tract. While upper GI bleeding is reported more often than lower GI bleeding, there is also a risk for inflammation and increased mucosal permeability in the lower GI tract. Lower GI bleeding can result in anemia, protein loss, occult blood loss, and malabsorption.

Painkillers Can Be Dangerous

Use of over-the-counter NSAIDs have also been associated with hearing loss and renal function abnormalities, such as fluid retention, reduced renal function, and electrolyte complications. High doses or long-term use of NSAIDs are associated with kidney damage that may become permanent and lead to kidney failure.

Opioid prescriptions rose 100% between 2000 and 2010, which is likely linked to the global epidemic of opioid addiction. Patients who have been on opioids for just one month show significant changes in their brain volume. The number of opioid-related deaths rose from just over 10,000 each year in 2002 to almost 35,000 in 2015. Due to this addiction epidemic, some states are trying to hold manufacturers accountable for deceptive marketing practices that led to the current addiction problem.

Drug-Free Pain Management

Trying to manage pain without addressing the causative issue is likely to increase your risk of having harmful side effects from the medication. It is best to explore other options before using painkillers, even if it is only for a short period of time. Many pain-relieving drugs may increase your risk of having heart attack, alter your behavior, and even change your brain chemistry.

One great option for drug-free pain management is getting sufficient sleep. Getting a full eight hours of sleep every night can help you manage any discomfort that you are having.

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